For those of you who follow, last Sunday I extended myself a challenge to not complain AT ALL this Thanksgiving Holiday. (Here’s the original post: Thanksgiving Gripes). Suddenly I found myself with a quiet moment and decided to sit down, drink some DDP and report in, because I know the suspense is dampening your holiday feasting. Here is how it is going so far:
I stink at this.
No, really. Stink. Not complaining about anything is WAY harder than I ever imagined it to be. Bad job me. Part of the problem is that it is a very busy time, and a lot is needing to be done. It is a simple matter of ratios: The more stuff that happens, the more stuff goes South.
Even so, I know I have made some improvement because I have caught myself repeatedly and bit my tongue. Corralling my thoughts is much trickier business. Even if I don’t verbally complain, I am busy doing it silently. I have had some success in changing my mind by focusing on something else.
It is tougher than I thought, but I expect making a change like this would be the equivalent of withdrawing from a drug addiction. It takes repeated attempts, and some pain. I will keep trying to do my best.
One of the key points is to remember that forgiveness intercepts grumbling faster than anything. If I feel the need to grouse about someone, if I can head it off at the pass with a forgiving heart, I win.
Another thing to do is to change my focus from the irritant to gratitude. If I stop and think about something I am grateful for, it seems to melt my icy heart long enough to shift gears. Sometimes.
I would like to take a second and express my gratitude to you, my loyal and attractive followers. It is good for me to have you in my life, and to associate with – even digitally. Thank you for your support, and uplifting comments, and weird sense of humor.